How the Cocoas Came to Be Hot for Each Other

He was a high school junior, campaigning to head the nation's largest student-run political organization. She was a nerdy, overly earnest sophomore who thought that was kind of cool. He asked her to paint his campaign signs. She swooned . . . .

[Geek Romance, circa 1993]


Mr. Then-Lukewarm Cocoa (TLC) and I met when we were 16 and 15, respectively. We were -- how to phrase this delicately for Mr. TLC's ego? -- big dorks. Don't get me wrong, we weren't the kids who got wedgied by the football team or who had poor social skills or bad hygiene (as far as we could tell anyway). We even had friends. Yes, I was on the debate team. And Mr. TLC had Robert's Rules of Order memorized. But did I mention that we had friends -- like of the non-imaginary variety?!

Although we went to different high schools, we met as members of the Junior State of America (JSA), a nationwide, non-partisan organization that works to increase political engagement among high school students. JSA is a student-run organization that's loosely structured like the US government. There are local chapters at high schools. There are also regions (or "states"), each with their own elected and appointed leadership composed of high school students. These elected and appointed student leaders then organize state-wide conventions in which thousands of high school students gather for debates, simulations, talks by elected officials and policy wonks, and other civically oriented activities. Rumor has it that nerd hookups and other non-civically oriented activities also take place at these overnight gatherings (at hotels largely free of adult supervision). But I'm sure that's just a rumor.

[JSA Convention, circa 1994]


Anyway, after Mr. TLC was elected Governor of the Southern California Junior State and chair of the National Council of JSA Governors, he appointed a very capable, charming, and HOT young lady to his cabinet. We spent a lot of time together organizing conventions -- many hours planning activities at the Olive Garden (which we, of course, thought was a super grown-up place to hang out), many more hours putting together convention programs and other materials at Kinkos, and many many more hours flirting with each other. It was all very "The West Wing," high school edition.

[Assembling convention programs, circa 1993]



Sure, Mr. TLC often showed up to meetings carrying a briefcase and wearing a fedora, his dad's old button-down shirt, gray shorts, and white sneakers. Nonetheless, I thought he was adorable. I had a thing for men in positions of power (these, after all, were the Clinton years). Mr. TLC thought I was out of his league (which I clearly was -- I mean, do you see how I'm working that pink suit in the first photo?). I told mutual friends of my crush. But he said he couldn't have the distraction of a girlfriend; he, after all, had his college apps to think about.

Seriously.


Eventually, Mr. TLC came to his senses and realized that as distractions go, I'm not such a bad one. And in October 1993, he asked me out. I played coy and said I'd think about it; I had gubernatorial ambitions of my own to think about and couldn't be "distracted" by some tawdry executive branch romance. Maybe we could "date," I replied.


We dated.

On and off.

Across states and sometimes continents.

For 14 years.
[Newly hot Cocoas, circa 1993]

And that's how the Cocoas, lukewarm alone, became Hot.


Are you marrying your long-time paramour, or is your relationship of a comparatively more recent vintage? Do you have an endearingly embarrassing how-we-met story to share? Come on, I told you ours! I even illustrated it with pics of my ill-fitting pink suit and Mr. HC's jewfro. Don't leave us hanging!

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Sawatdee from Thailand

Sorry to have gone MIA for a week!  Sister Hot Cocoa, Hot Mama Cocoa, and I spent a few days in Bangkok doing what we do best: shopping, eating, and shopping.  Of course, we brought back a souvenir for the hive -- namely, this inspirational visual for you orchid-loving brides.

Sigh.  Thailand is blooming with orchids.  This was just one of several arrangements sitting on the counter at the check-in desk at our hotel.  And there were orchids in the bathroom.  And on the bed.  And at the airport.  Even on the plane!  Orchids of the most luscious, must-see-to-believe colors and varieties.  Giant aubergine and mauve vanda orchids, speckled like robins' eggs. Delicate, multicolored dendrobium orchids, deliciously pale pink at the tips and fresh apple green at the center.  And tons of "ordinary" fuchsia dendrobiums, like those seen here woven into garlands with michelias and jasmines as an offering at the popular Erawan Shrine.
A close-up of the garlands:
Here's the kicker.  Even at the airport, where you can pretty much expect a 100% markup on everything, 20 stems of gorgeous orchids were a mere 500-1000 baht ($15-30), depending on variety/color.  That's less than $1 per stem on certain varieties!  Back in the U.S., even at wholesale prices, the most standard of orchids will set you back $2-3 a stem.  Which pretty much means that the closest I'll come to getting these stunning orchid bouquets is . . . well, here:

[Bouquet images courtesy of MarthaStewart.com]

Since I couldn't bring home the orchids, I had to make do with a selection of handmade floral papers, which I purchased on the cheap -- about fifty cent per 22 x 30 sheet (retails for $3.70 at Papermojo) -- from Chatuchak (or "JJ") Market, the famous weekend flea market.
At close to 9000 stalls, JJ floors even the most ambitious bargain hunters, like the Hot Cocoas. Thank goodness for the refreshing lime and honey coolers sold roadside.  And the foot massages we got the next day.

Did you find any wedding-related inspirations or bargains on your summer travels?

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Project Virtual Runway

In my last post, I described my efforts to find a couture dress bargain on the in-ter-web. In this post, I provide a detailed list of websites for your shopping enjoyment. Oh, and since a dress post without pictures is like a cupcake without the frosting, I thought I'd also present a virtual fashion show of some of the delicious couture gowns available at significant discount online.


As Heidi would say, "Let's start the show."


[In descending order: Lela Rose "Park" ($2200 at Bella Rosa); Reem Acra 3103 ($1950 at Bridepower); Claire Pettibone "Marguerite" ($1850 at Dream Bridal L.A.); Monique Lhuillier "Yolana" ($2590 at Encore Bridal); Anne Barge 257 ($1890 at Bridecouture); Romona Keveza L637 ($1275 at Scarlett's Closet); Melissa Sweet "Layla" ($2250 at Sabrina Ann)]

1. Sellers of sample and gently-used wedding gowns
Avant Bridal: Website for Bozeman, MT, bridal boutique; offers very limited selection of sample gowns
Bella Rosa Bridal: Website for Richmond, VA, bridal boutique; over 80 sample and discount dresses and headpieces for sale online; sample sale includes pieces by the fabulous Lela Rose (hard to find on discount)
Bridal Boutique of Carmel: Website for Carmel, IN, bridal boutique; offers a number of sample dresses for sale online
Bride Couture: Website for Poway, CA, store; hundreds of sample gowns available online; well laid out and easily searchable website
Bride Power: Website for Vows Bridal Outlet, in Newton, MA; hundreds of sample gowns for sale online; well organized, detailed, and easily searchable website
Carine's Bridal Atelier: Website for Washington, DC, bridal boutique; offers a number of sample dresses for sale online, including this Carolina Herrera stunner for $2775
Dream Bridal L.A.: Online retailer from which I bought my gown; offers a well-edited selection of new, sample, and gently worn gowns, incl. this $2700 new with tags Melissa Sweet "Lia"
Hitched Salon: Website for Washington, DC, bridal boutique; offers limited selection of sample gowns, including this chic Oscar de la Renta sheath
Sabrina Ann: Website for Ardmore, PA, consignment bridal shop; offers new and gently used gowns
Scarlett's Closet: Online retailer of sample wedding, evening, and MOB gowns and bridal accessories; good selection
Your Dream Dress: Ebay seller with hundreds of sample gowns, new and sample veils and shoes, and satin sashes in myriad colors; steals include this $195 (yes, you read that right) Amsale gown
2. Consignment stores and listing services
Bell Ancora

3. Online retailers with limited selection of wedding dresses
Bluefly: Offers discounted new with tags Nicole Miller wedding dresses, as well as evening gowns from various designers
The Frock: Tons of gorgeous vintage wedding dresses, including this dreamy Dior confection perfect for a modern day Joan Fontaine
Stylebug: General retailer of discount designer merchandise; bridal section offers a number of new with tags gowns from various designers, incl. Carolina Herrera, Christos, and Badgely Mischka.  Check out this Vera Wang that's perfect for a prima ballerina:
See anything you like?  

Auf Wiedersehen!

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